Lessons: Being Positive

Oh boy!  The other week, my article sucked.  Even though I was proud of writing it at the moment, I realized today that my post entitled Lesson: Unrealistic Budgets went array because I said things that could be taken out of context, easily miscontrued, and definitely worthy of controversy.  Definitely a fan of all things wedding, I feel just awful because I created a gap not a bridge between our community.

This is a great example of what I call --- voicing an opinion but forgetting the big picture. Sure I made my point which was about setting realistic expectations but in the middle of everything, I sort of "disturbed" people by eluding to the fact that I wasn't backing my fellow vendors.  That's such a no no.  Simply, I failed.

The lesson is obvious.  As a vendor, whether you are a seasoned pro or a new business owner, we are one team.  Though we all work in different areas, we each represent our community --- the wedding industry.  And what I learned the hard way is that there is no place for "putting down" others in the industry even if that wasn't one's intentions.  Our tone says a lot.  It can hurt those that we shouldn't hurt.  As long as we make others feel bad, it's not a good thing.   It's never a good thing.

As leaders, we speak for those who are too shy to speak.  I want to thank Chanda of A Monique Affair for pointing out that "we all need each other".  Amen to that!  I'm learning that we need to bridge the gap between vendors.  We also need to bridge the gap between vendors and our clients.  

Bottom line:  We all need each other.